Embracing Growth and Renewal: The Journey of Single Parents
Introduction: The Transformative Power of Single Parenthood
Single parenthood is often perceived as a challenging journey, but new research reveals a more uplifting narrative. A study conducted by Talker Research on behalf of Stir surveyed 1,000 single moms and 1,000 single dads, uncovering a profound transformation in the lives of single parents. The findings suggest that the end of a relationship often marks the beginning of a journey of self-discovery and growth. Two-thirds of single parents report experiencing a post-breakup "glow up," where they find a renewed sense of confidence and self-awareness. Additionally, 82% of respondents believe their best days are yet to come, highlighting a sense of hope and optimism for the future. This research paints a picture of single parents not just surviving but thriving, as they embrace new opportunities for personal evolution and empowerment.
Discovering the "Glow Up": A Journey of Self-Discovery and Confidence
The concept of a "glow up" refers to a period of personal transformation where individuals uncover their true selves and gain confidence. For single parents, this journey is not just about moving on from a past relationship but about rediscovering who they are outside of their previous roles. The survey found that 57% of single parents feel more confident in who they are, while 52% report feeling better about themselves than ever before. A significant 51% have even embraced aspects of themselves they may have previously suppressed. This newfound self-acceptance is a cornerstone of the "glow up" experience, allowing single parents to step into a more authentic version of themselves.
Beyond individual growth, the survey also highlights a "grow up," a phase where priorities shift and mindsets mature. A staggering 77% of respondents experienced this transformation, with 57% evolving into a more mature version of themselves and 51% leaving their old selves behind. Letting go of past grudges and negative feelings was another key aspect of this growth, with 49% of single parents reporting they’ve released emotional baggage. These shifts in perspective and behavior underscore the idea that single parenthood can be a catalyst for profound personal development.
Rediscovering Attraction and Confidence in the Dating World
The transformation experienced by single parents doesn’t just stop at personal growth; it also extends into the dating world. Over half (54%) of respondents reported being approached more often by potential dates since becoming single parents. This increased attention is likely due to the qualities single parents develop, such as maturity, responsibility, and the ability to show care and attention—all of which are cited as top "instant turn-ons" in a partner. Interestingly, these same traits are what single parents find most attractive about themselves, creating a magnetic attraction that draws others in.
The journey back into the dating scene isn’t rushed, however. On average, single parents take about 11 months to rediscover themselves before feeling ready to date again. This period of self-reflection involves learning to adjust to life on their own (42%), taking better care of their physical and mental health (39%), and prioritizing their own needs (35%). Nearly half (49%) of single parents even believe they are more dateable now than before, attributing this to increased confidence (45%) and improved mental (43%) and emotional health (42%). For single dads, physical health also plays a role, with 33% crediting their improved physique for their enhanced appeal.
Prioritizing Self-Care and Rebuilding Connections
Beyond dating, single parents are also focusing on rebuilding and strengthening connections with loved ones. Two in five (41%) respondents spend more time with family and friends, fostering deeper relationships that provide support and joy. While single moms are more likely to prioritize self-care (41%) and explore new interests like trying new foods or taking classes (28%), single dads often turn to fitness (35%) or revisit hobbies that their former partner may not have shared an interest in (24%). These activities not only bring personal fulfillment but also contribute to a sense of renewal and vitality.
Rachel DeAlto, Chief Dating Expert at Stir, sums up this transformation: "We’re seeing single parents prioritize themselves in healthy, transformative ways. This isn’t selfish—it’s strategic self-investment that benefits both parent and child." By focusing on their own growth and well-being, single parents are creating a more balanced and fulfilling life for themselves and their families.
A Brighter Future: Embracing Life Beyond Parenthood
The journey of single parenthood is anything but static. It’s a dynamic process of learning, growing, and evolving. The survey reveals that single parents are not just adapting to their new reality—they’re elevating themselves and their lives. They’re embracing the opportunities for self-improvement, whether it’s through personal growth, dating, or rebuilding connections with loved ones. As Rachel DeAlto notes, "The combination of personal growth and increased self-awareness creates a magnetic attraction." This attraction isn’t just about drawing others in; it’s also about attracting a brighter, more fulfilling future for themselves and their children.
In conclusion, the findings of this survey paint a picture of resilience and hope. Single parents are proving that the end of a relationship doesn’t mark the end of their story—it’s just the beginning of a new chapter filled with growth, confidence, and renewed purpose. As they continue to navigate the challenges of single parenthood, they’re doing so with a sense of optimism and a commitment to becoming the best version of themselves.
Survey Methodology:
The survey was conducted by Talker Research on behalf of Stir, with 1,000 single moms and 1,000 single dads participating. The survey was administered online between December 3 and December 13, 2024.
